Once you’ve been asked the big question and start planning your wedding, it’s your turn to ask another big question: who will be my maid of honor, and who will be my bridesmaids? This shouldn’t be difficult but sometimes feelings get hurt, there are family obligations or budget issues. Below are some tips to help you but ultimately, it’s your wedding, and your friends and family should be happy to attend whether they are a part of the bridal party or not.
- For aesthetic purposes there should be the same amount of bridesmaids as there are groomsmen, but this is not necessary.
- 12 is considered to be the maximum amount, including the maid of honor.
- It is typically good to have at least one groomsman and one bridesmaid for every 50 guests.
- Make a list of all possible candidates, including your fiance’s picks.
- The maid of honor should be someone very close to the bride. (They usually help plan the bridal shower and help pick the bride’s gown)
- The maid of honor/bridesmaids pay for their own dresses and travel expenses, so consider budgets in your planning.
- Will you be dependent on your maid of honor/bridesmaids? If so, are they reliable?
- What expectations do you have for your maid of honor/bridesmaids and can they meet them?
Hopefully that at least helped you narrow down your choices. Now comes the fun part, asking!
Jewelry is a classic gift when asking your maid of honor to be there on your big day. It can hold special meaning for the two of you, match the wedding theme or dress, or just be really pretty; your maid of honor will love it and be honored that you chose her.
Although it is best to ask your choices in person, it is not always convenient. Send a card in the mail (or hand it to them in person); more designs can be found on Etsy.com.
Find a ring pop (remember those?) and mimic a proposal. This idea is best used if your maid of honor is a close friend that will appreciate the humor. Candy necklaces can be used to ask each bridesmaid, as well.